Good morning my beauty junkies and readers! Today is May 21st, and it seems that the days are going by faster and faster. This week, I wanted to share a general rule that I live by that I’ve found myself sharing a lot lately. I call it my 30-Day Rule.
Essentially, “Everything shows its ass in 30 days.”
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. By that standard, we’re all a little insane. For this post, I’m going to break down to how I incorporate it into my life, from red flags in relationships, to a general sense of well-being. This 30-Day Rule may not be for you, but if it seems like something you want to try, then absolutely go for it! For my life, general happiness, and protection of my space I use this rule big time.
I come into contact with people every single day. And every single day, someone wants to chat or meet me. My 30-Day rule helps me really get to know what the intentions of these people are. I’m very into energy and the exchanges of energy, and I don’t want anyone around me with bad juju. Usually after 30 days I can tell if I want to continue the friendship, or meet them for the first time. I’m speaking of the non-romantic aspect of meeting people, and after 30 days I’ll know. How? Have they asked me for anything that I’m not willing to give? Have they been a bother? Sorry, I’m busy, and I don’t have the time or space for needy people in my life. Do they just want free business advice? Lol, this happens all the time! Is this person a good fit for my life? Do they seem trustworthy? After 30 days, you will know! Trust me, all you have to do is go back to the previous posts I’ve written where I talk about focusing on you and staying in your lane. All of the outside noise is just noise. The 30-Day rule helps weed out that noise.
When it comes to romantic relationships, I always tell my friends the 30-Day rule is a must. Within 30 days you will most certainly see someone’s true colors. Most red flags are noticeable quickly, but by 30 days you should know if there is something that’s going to be detrimental to the future of your relationship. Refer to my Un-Rushing Relationships post where I talk about this.
For example, my friend was recently seeing someone, let’s call him Smith. He was very attentive in the beginning, but after a short period she felt like she was walking on eggshells all the time, and he was snappy over everything. She noticed a tendency for this on week 2, but 34 days later it was too much. She used my 30-Day Rule to weed out possible problems in the future and probably saved herself from a really bad situation long term. You may well think, “How can I weed out a possible partner in 30 days?!” That’s up to you. The 30-Day Rule isn’t for everyone.
When it comes to my employees, I ALWAYS use the 30-Day Rule. I use this because people don’t usually give the best first impression with me. I’m often busy, and intimidating, and doing 25 things while trying to meet a new, possible employee. It just is what it is. I mean, I’m running two companies and have my own personal things going on as well. With the 30-Day Rule, I make my assessment over time to find out if they’ll be a good fit. I get reports on all things (performance, punctuality, etc.) from my warehouse staff, and I usually try to pop by a few times in the 30 days to form my own opinions. I’m lucky to like all of my employees, but I also realize you don’t have to like everyone on your staff. They just need to be efficient, and I usually know that much in, like I say, 30 days, lol.
Again readers, this isn’t for everyone, but it has never steered me wrong! I’m a highly organized and efficient person, and my time is valuable, as is yours. There’s a reason they say that in 30 days you can form a habit. Well, with my rule you can avoid some bad habits too!